These communication patterns erode trust and devastate relationships

Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, and all happily married couples, even broken up former couples, would agree on that. All bonds are held together by a thin thread of trust, which can be easily broken by miscommunication. So, if you’ve been making these mistakes by following these communication patterns, stop right now because they can quickly destroy trust and ruin relationships.

The blame game

No one enjoys being blamed, and constant taunts drive the other away. When you say things like “it’s your fault,” “why do you always do this,” or “you never…”, you are scraping away at the feelings the other person has for you. Try a different approach to getting him/her to understand what you truly want. Accept that the other person is built differently than you and cannot always do what you believe is right. His or her set of rights and wrongs may differ from yours.

Keep accounts

You don’t keep track of what you do for someone else. Then it’s safe to assume you did it for selfish reasons. In any relationship, there is no place for unhealthy competition. There are no losers or winners in this game. So get rid of this attitude.

Your wants

It is always a two-way street in a relationship. You can’t have a “my way or the highway” mentality. This only makes the other person resent you, disconnect from you, and feel unimportant.

The “I don’t care” attitude

When you say you don’t care, or even “whatever,” you make the other person feel worthless, as if their existence is unimportant to you. If you consistently forget about plans with them or whatever else needs to be done, the other person will lose interest in you. They become numb, which is the opposite of what you want in a relationship.