Inadvertently harmed your partner? Here are some ways you can console them

We all have those moments when we unintentionally say or do something that hurts our partner. It could be because of our frustrations at work or in general, stress of some kind, and we lash out or say something we shouldn’t have. Even jokes that we thought were funny in our heads turn out to be completely wrong. So, here are some suggestions to help you console your hurt partner.

Act on it

Instead of just feeling guilty and not addressing it with your partner, speak to her or him and express your regret and hold them in your heart. Apologize and give a warm hug. It is critical to not only recognise your error, but also to act on it and comfort the other. Don’t flee, assuming that he or she will not want to see you because you are the perpetrator. It is, in fact, the opposite.

Change in tactics

Because everyone is unique, the way they deal with pain differs as well. Sometimes the damage is so severe that it cannot be repaired in a timely manner. You change your tactics, your strategy for dealing with him or her, here. Adapt and fine-tune your strategy. Look for areas where you can improve yourself, because “I am like that” is not an answer in this situation.

Show the love

Okay, if you’re a silent lover who rarely shows it but adores her or him deeply, but that might not work here. It is sometimes necessary to express oneself through words and actions. Cuddle, hug, hold hands, and reassure your partner with loving and caring words. Say that you want to know what he or she is going through in addition to apologising and admitting your error.

What can you do to repair the damage

Once you’ve begun the process of providing comfort, you must also address the damage you’ve caused. Ask what you can do, how you can help, because you can’t take it back. Tell them you don’t want to aggravate the situation. If you are unsure what you can do, say so as well: “I am unsure how to proceed, but I am willing to do anything to rectify the situation.” Do consider the timing of your words.

Open up

You’ve lent your ear to your partner, but make sure he or she understands where your outburst is coming from. If you open up to your partner, he or she will feel relieved and good. Leave no room for misunderstanding. It is always a two-way street in a relationship.

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