Have you ever tried talking about work, personal, or financial issues with your partner? And did the discussion end on a sour note? Do you and your partner frequently end up fighting and unable to reach an agreement? Don’t be concerned. It’s quite common. It’s not that your relationship is bad or that you two aren’t meant to be together. It’s simply a reflection of the disparity in viewpoints.
Here are a few pointers to help you get through and sort things out.
Lend an ear to your partner’s words
The majority of fights occur because one or both partners refuse to listen to what the other has to say. While it is acceptable to regard yourself as a perfectionist and master of situation management, it is also critical to listen to your partner’s advice or opinion. This will allow you to make better, more collaborative decisions and eliminate fights. So, even if you disagree with your partner’s thought process, remain calm and explain where he is going wrong and what you believe will be a better option. Include them and solicit their advice. Be polite enough to say something like, ‘That’s a good idea, but do you think we can do it this way?’ This will make them feel included, and you will not come across as smart and authoritative.
Don’t interrupt when the other is speaking
Most of us have a bad habit of losing patience and interrupting people when they are speaking because we believe they don’t have anything interesting to say. However, it is too soon to pass judgment. As a result, be patient enough to let the person finish before offering your opinion or suggestions. When it comes to compromising, be the bigger person. Don’t let your ego influence your decision-making.
Never dig up old memories
We followed your advice the last time, and things turned out to be a disaster. The majority of us bring our past experiences into the present conversation. There is no way for a healthy debate to take place in this manner. Forget about what has happened in the past. Concentrate on the new scenario and try to reach a decision as a group. Don’t insist on being the only one who knows what’s best. Allow the other person space, acknowledge their efforts, and value their words. Nobody wants to make a bad decision on purpose. Be wise enough to forgive and avoid repeating the same mistakes. This is where your maturity shines through. When you are mature enough to focus on the present and future, the other person may realise their error on their own.