Do the thoughts of a probable break up haunt you? Here’s how to control them

It is 3 a.m. You awoke thinking about what your life would be like if your partner left you. Do such thoughts ring a bell? Do you have nightmares about a failed relationship as well? If you answered yes, it could be due to insecurities or simply a result of your past experiences.

If you’re wondering how to control, or at least limit, these thoughts, here are a few ideas to get you started.

Be affirmative that everything happens for a reason

If you want such thoughts to stop haunting you, you must accept that everything happens for a reason. Assure yourself that if you have to go through a break-up, it will be for your own good. Don’t conjure up scenarios in your head and dismiss it as a phase of life. It will be easier to kill such negative feelings once you have realized the truth.

Believe in yourself

If someone wants to be in your life, no matter how hard you try, he or she will find a way. So, stop blaming yourself and start believing in yourself. You must validate the fact that you are perfect and that the only thing you need to change about yourself is your ability to overthink. Stop making up scenarios that have nothing to do with reality. Learn to accept yourself and live in the present moment.

Tweak your lifestyle

You may be wondering what thoughts about a possible break-up have to do with changing one’s lifestyle. The answer is a lot. Sometimes negative thoughts are the result of an unhealthy lifestyle. So, if anxiety and negativity have become your friends, you might want to think about living a healthy lifestyle. Watch what you eat, stop watching depressing movies, and get up and move. Keep track of your sleeping patterns as well, as sleep disruptions can lead to anxiety and stress.

Spend time with your partner

While this may not appear to be a big deal, it has a significant impact on how you think throughout the day. When you’re having a good time with your partner, the good memories are more likely to stick with you, leaving no room for the bad ones to come back to haunt you. Avoid unnecessary squabbles, and always try to understand your partner. If he or she goes to bed early, it does not always imply that he or she is ignoring you. Tell yourself that they’re probably just tired from a long day at work. Little things make a big difference, and you have to start with yourself. Control your thoughts and rest assured that they will fade away gradually.

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