In a long-term relationship, how can partners maintain a good sexual connection?

Sex in long-term partnerships frequently takes a difficult route. The nature of bedroom activities varies with the length of a relationship, from delivering overt pleasure to instilling latent contempt for the partner.

Consider married couples in India. In addition to the stunning quiet surrounding the subject of sex and pleasure in general, our society notably produces marriages in which sex – if not love – has left the bedrooms.

Married couples limit sex as they age, as children enter the family, as job schedules become more demanding, and, of course, as the concept of sex as sin beyond procreation stresses them. And eventually, they come to a halt. This isn’t just a marriage-related phenomenon. Partners in long-term live-in relationships, friendships, and other relationship dynamics can all be affected by a lack of sexual intimacy.

Fall prey, I say, since sex remains a crucial role in the health of the partners’ connection in a relationship established on emotional, romantic, or deeper grounds where sex was a way to express and unite. When that light goes out between partners, experts warn it robs them of more than just sex.

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Why do couples in long-term relationships abandon sex?

Is it because sexual satisfaction no longer exists? Or is it because sex appears to be more of a chore than a pleasure activity? Is there any shame in bringing up the subject of sex after a lengthy period without it? Is there a new set of inhibitions concerning the body? Is there some sort of internal struggle brewing? Is it possible that keeping a marriage appears to be a responsibility rather than a willing participation?

There are numerous causes for this, which are best articulated individually by couples whose sexual relationships have diminished or vanished entirely. Emily Nagoski, a sex educator, describes how she tells couples to overcome physical and mental obstacles – what she refers to as “sleepy hedgehogs in the way” – in a fascinating TEDx stage presentation.

She compares sex to a party. Not by definition, but as a metaphor for anything you need to do or go to. Even if you don’t want to come at the last minute, Nagoski recommends dressing up and going. “It’s the same thing when it comes to a sexual connection. You put on your party clothes, arrange childcare, get into bed, let your skin touch your partner’s flesh, and allow your body to wake up and recall, ‘I like this.'”