How not to resent your spouse because he or she is financially dependent on you

Marriages, we’re told, are all about equality, with both parties contributing equally to the relationship. When it comes to money, however, this is not always the case. It is not uncommon for one partner to begin to resent the other for being financially dependent, whether your spouse earns less than you or has simply chosen to be a homemaker. This article aims to provide you with some perspective so that you can consider all of the other ways your partner actively contributes to your marriage every day. This may allow you to appreciate your spouse more and begin a new chapter in your relationship.

Gauge the actual expense of their services  

If your partner handles day-to-day tasks at home, figure out how much it would cost to outsource those tasks to someone else. Consider the cost of hiring a nanny, a cook, and a maid for housekeeping and laundry. Calculate the cost of these services based on local rates in your area. It will provide a realistic assessment of the financial value of your spouse’s efforts.

Accept that they are never off the clock

Working a 9-5 job has some great perks, such as being able to turn off work mode once you get home. However, being a stay-at-home mom can make you feel like you’re working 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Cooking breakfasts, lunches, and dinners, as well as checking on the kids’ homework and cleaning the bed your toddler wet at midnight, are all part of the job. While working people have weekends off, housewives are never off the clock.

Consider switching places with them

Finally, if you find yourself envious of your spouse’s life, it may be time to have a serious conversation with them about switching roles. Inquire with them about returning to work while you consider staying at home for a while.


Resentment can eventually strain your marriage and lead to an ugly fight. So, if you want to strengthen your bond with your partner and banish the bitterness that has crept between the two of you, consider using this guide to see things from your partner’s point of view, as it may bring you closer than ever.

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