Whether you like it or not, in-laws are and will always be a part of your marital life. If you have good in-laws, your married life will be happy, but if not, you may have a rough life ahead of you. So, let’s have a look at how to deal with problematic or toxic in-laws and what to do when family dynamics become difficult and damage your relationship.
Turn your lover and you against one other: Never fall for ‘ He said, she said’ game (I mean blame game) since it caused enormous and unnecessary chaos between the two of you. It also adds a negative element to your connection.
HOW TO DEAL: Communication is essential in such situations; talk to your partner since you need to unite. Most crucial, pay attention to what your partner says and avoid persons who sow seeds in your mind.
Space: Your in-laws frequently pay surprise visits to your home or room, which is not ideal. As a couple, many in-laws will refuse to respect your personal space.
HOW TO Cope: We understand how difficult it is to deal with such a circumstance because it can appear impolite and selfish. As a result, you must explain your time and space to them, as well as the need for you and your partner to spend time alone.
Taking decisions: We know and have seen many in-laws that are nosy and sneaky and want to get involved in your affairs and troubles. That is undoubtedly unpleasant, but it is not hazardous. Whether you’re talking about buying a house or having children, your in-laws always have an opinion, as if it should be the determining factor in your decision-making process.
HOW TO DEAL: Keep a smile on your face, preserve calm, nod your head at their points of view, and do what you and your decision need to do. Explain to your in-laws that, while you value their thoughts and opinions, you now need to make the decision that just the two of you need to drive.
Yes, we all want to be treated like children again, from making meals to doing laundry. But not when your in-laws do stuff for you, such as washing your laundry, feeding you, and choosing out your clothes. It has the potential to irritate you to unprecedented heights.
HOW TO DEAL: Draw the line from the start. Yes, it may appear harsh, particularly to your mother-in-law, who wishes to handle things. And after a few occasions of standing up for yourself, they should start to back off a little.
Gossip: This can be dangerous. Gossiping about you to other family members, friends, and relatives can be hurtful and aggravating. Bitching about you to others might ruin a lovely connection.
HOW TO DEAL: You must inform your in-laws that you are aware of the comments they have made against you or your family. Tell them you don’t deserve their disrespect and that it bothers you. And from now on, instead of spreading gossip and rumours, they will talk to you directly the next time they have an issue.