The physical changes that occur in your body as you get older have a significant impact on your sexuality. Sexual difficulties such as erectile dysfunction or vaginal pain can be caused by declining hormone levels and changes in neurological and circulatory functioning.
Because of these physical changes, the intensity of youthful sex may give way to more subdued responses in middle and later life. However, the emotional byproducts of maturation — increased confidence, improved communication skills, and reduced inhibitions — can contribute to a richer, more nuanced, and ultimately satisfying sexual experience. Many people, however, fail to recognise the full potential of later-life sex. You can better navigate problems if you understand the critical physical and emotional elements that underpin satisfying sex.
It is now easier than ever to treat sexual problems. If you require it, revolutionary medications and professional sex therapists are available. However, by making a few changes to your lovemaking style, you may be able to resolve minor sexual issues. Here are some ideas for you to try at home.
Know more about yourself. There are a plethora of good self-help materials available for every type of sexual issue. Browse the Internet or your local bookstore for a few resources that apply to you and your partner, and use them to help you and your partner become more knowledgeable about the issue. If talking directly is too difficult, you and your partner can highlight and show each other passages that you particularly like.
Allow yourself some time. Sexual responses slow down as you get older. You and your partner can increase your chances of success by finding a sex location that is quiet, comfortable, and free of interruptions. Also, keep in mind that the physical changes in your body will require more time to aroused and reach orgasm. Spending more time having sex isn’t necessarily a bad thing; incorporating these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open the door to a new type of sexual experience.
Apply lubricant. Often, perimenopausal vaginal dryness can be easily remedied with lubricating liquids and gels. Use these freely to avoid painful sex, which can lead to a drop in libido and increased relationship tensions. When lubricants no longer work, consult your doctor about other options.
Keep the physical affection going. Even if you’re tired, tense, or upset about the problem, kissing and cuddling are necessary for maintaining an emotional and physical bond.
Practice touching. Sensate focus techniques used by sex therapists can assist you in re-establishing physical intimacy without feeling pressed. Variations on these exercises can be found in many self-help books and educational videos. You could also ask your partner to touch you in the way he or she would like to be touched. This will give you a better idea of how much pressure you should apply, ranging from gentle to firm.
Experiment with different positions. Having a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking but can also aid in problem-solving. For example, when a man enters his partner from behind, the increased stimulation to the G-spot can assist the woman in reaching orgasm.
Make a list of your fantasies. This exercise can assist you in exploring potential activities that you believe may be appealing to you or your partner. Try recalling an experience or a movie that piqued your interest and then sharing your memory with your partner. This is especially beneficial for people who have the low desire.
Make use of a vibrator. This device can assist a woman in learning about her sexual response and allowing her to demonstrate her preferences to her partner.
Don’t give up hope. Don’t give up if none of your efforts seems to be working. Your doctor can frequently identify the source of your sexual problem and may be able to recommend effective treatments. He or she can also put you in touch with a sex therapist who can assist you in exploring issues that may be impeding a fulfilling sex life.