Methods for dealing with scheming in-laws
Not everyone is fortunate to have good in-laws. Some people can be so toxic and cunning that it affects your and your family’s mental health, as well as their physical health in some cases. They go beyond all boundaries, and you regret ever marrying into that particular family. So, how do you deal with such in-laws diplomatically? Here are some strategies and steps to dealing with such scheming in-laws that may be useful to you.
Don’t let the ‘divide and rule’ work
Many bored in-laws try to use the Divide and Rule policy to pit one against the other. To avoid such situations, you and your partner must always work together. Make sure there are no gaps for miscommunication to enter. Make it a rule between you two to talk about anything that bothers you, no matter how trivial or insignificant it appears.
Monitor your reactions
Your reaction may re-ignite a fight or simply cool it down. Instead of giving them fuel and allowing them to gaslight you, keep it steady and chant in your head “OM” or whatever mantra works for you.
Draw the boundaries
Many households require you to literally sit and draw the boundary lines with your in-laws. You and your partner cannot allow others to decide your life’s path. Sit down with some tea and biscuits and explain to them that there are certain decisions in your lives that only you two can make and that no third party can interfere with. Another thing my grandmother taught me was to say yes to everything but do what you want. Maybe that can be done as well? It keeps the peace in the house while allowing you to do whatever you want.
