Do you want to get away from everyone? Here’s what an expert has to say about it

Do you want to get away from people and things? Is loneliness something you’re interested in? Do you frequently feel as if life has lost its meaning and that you yearn for peace? The majority of people will say yes. Regardless of how familiar these feelings are, many of us may not understand why or how they occur. The solution is in your way of life.

Human beings, like any other machine, require rest. And, hey, we have life, so why not? However, many people prioritize their work so much that everything else, including their health, suffers as a result.

This feeling, according to Garima Juneja, Psychologist and Founder of Lightroom Therapy & Counselling, is caused by “burnout,” which is defined as a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

“The desire to flee is no longer limited to troubled adolescent boys. During times of extreme stress, we all have the recurring feeling of wanting to leave everything behind. “Whether it’s a stressed-out marketing guy, a banker, a CEO, or a tired mom, everyone goes through these kinds of emotions where we want the world to come to a halt,” Juneja says.
According to her, the main cause of this burnout feeling could be an unpleasant circumstance or a chronic problem with relationships at home or at work. “The feeling could also be a result of our inability to deal with a crisis.” But sometimes it’s just a stress sword hovering overhead for a long time, everyday stress piling up and making us feel overwhelmed with emotions. “Eventually, the desire to escape from people at work and even from personal life becomes urgent,” explains

Even a 10-day break will not get you back to your daily life in such a situation if not used wisely. The situation is exacerbated for those who, particularly in the corporate world, do not have the luxury of taking long breaks in between. So, what should one do, you might ask? The solution is straightforward. Make your break appear to be a break. Cut yourself off from the rest of the world. Don’t add to your stress by working even on vacation. Remember that while the meeting can wait, your mental health cannot.

Even if you have the freedom to take long breaks, Juneja believes it is not a good idea. “A brief runaway can have advantages at times.” If done properly, a distance can help you relax, reflect, and rejuvenate so you can return to your responsibilities with a clear mind. However, running away and staying put for an extended period of time may bring with it an additional burden of guilt, as well as the risk of jeopardizing your existing relationships and job,” says Juneja.

Place your foot down.

We can become exhausted as a result of an overload of work at work, at home, or both. However, as multidimensional beings, we are expected to excel in all dimensions. In such cases, before you reach the point of burnout, see what you can do to ease yourself out. It could be relinquishing responsibility, reassessing your job profile and eliminating redundant parts, or seeing if you can get help at home or from a coworker for the time being. Remember that you will be expected to do whatever is assigned to you unless you put your foot down and say enough is enough.

Perfectionism is lethal.

If you are taking on an excessive amount of responsibility due to your perfectionist tendencies, it is time to adjust yourself and weigh the deadline versus quality aspect. Instead of obsessing over perfection, deliver what is needed at the time. This will also lighten the load on your staff. Produce high-quality work, but not by burning the midnight oil on a regular basis, as this will eventually lead to burnout.

Change your circumstances.

Running away will never solve the problem. It’s the same as a child closing his eyes when he sees something dangerous approaching him. The problem is that fleeing will not make things easier. Let us face the music instead of closing our eyes. Consider what you can do to help yourself in the long run. A job change, leaving a toxic relationship or working on yourself may be some of the difficult decisions you must make. Making the right decisions at the right time may be more effective than procrastination.

Talk about it.

Using the services of a therapist may assist you in addressing the underlying cause of the problem. Collaborative discussions and decisions can eventually serve as long-term solutions. A persistent desire to flee is a cry for help. Seek assistance and devise a long-term solution to the problems.